What is Eye Contact Flirting?

Eye contact flirting is the most powerful tool you can have in your sexy flirting bag of tricks. Done well, you can very easily cast a seductive gaze at a guy checking you out, and then slowly reel him to you like a puppet on the string. It just takes a bit of confidence, and the right look of, ‘Hey Do You Wanna?’ for the game of eye contact flirting to begin.

There are different types of eye flirting you can use depending on your surroundings or even your mood. From flirty to fun, innocent to seriously seductive, choose one that feels right for you. But before you start, make sure you know what your intentions are. Are you flirting with a purpose or just a bit of fun? Are you playing the game of you’re coming home with me tonight, or are you just browsing? Use your flirting eyes wisely to ensure you send out the right signals for the response you want to get back.

Your Internal Telescope

If you think you are too shy for eye contact flirting, you’re probably actually not. Because although you may not be ready to cast a sexual gaze with the intention of inviting sex, you do already have your internal telescope that is your very own built in eye flirting tool. Everyone has it and using it comes second nature to most. It’s your everyday casual gaze that can secretly be used at any time and at any place. If you are in a cafe, a library, the bus stop, wherever, the casual gaze is great to use if you are with friends or on your own.Flirting tips for shy girls

Simply use your internal telescope to look around the room, like you are not looking for anything in particular, scan, and see if anyone is scanning back. It’s like a submarine telescope coming up out of the water that allows you to check your cute guy coordinates. And once you have those, it’s time to use your eyes for some serious eye contact flirting.

The Eye Flutter

The eye flutter is great for eye flirting as it’s wonderfully innocent and lusciously feminine. You have to make it appear though that you are not trying, that it is all very sweet and naive. And you also need to be careful that your rapid eye movement and blinking doesn’t turn from something sexy in to looking like there is something stuck in your eye. Use it by looking over at guy, almost like you are looking past him and not directly at him, look down, then back up straight at him, blink two or three times, then move your gaze away from him. It’s all very quick but done well it will be enough to get his attention.

mnbst237The Glance And Look Down

The glance and look down is a tried and tested, very successful eye contact flirting method. If you catch a guy scanning the room, wait until your eyes lock. Hold it for a second, look down but not away, then slowly bring your eyes back up to his. If he’s still looking, give him a little smile. This is telling him that he is definitely in and before long he should be making his way over to you. Overcome flirting fear


There is nothing as cute, or as brash as catching a guys eye by giving him a mischievous smile and a sweet little wink. Combine it with the glance and look down and other flirtatious behavior like playing with your hair and looking back up to him with an arched eyebrow. If he likes what he sees, this sexy flirting will definitely invite interaction.

The Intense Gaze

The intense gaze is not for the faint hearted and it is not to be used just for mucking about. It is the strongest eye contact flirting tool and should only be used when you want to go in for the kill. Like your eyes are silent assassins ready to lock in your target, this look is blatantly telling him, I want you and I want you now! Just be mindful that if you’re confident enough to use this one, you don’t want to be overly confident where you become intimidating and even a little bit scary, rather than sexy.

Reading His Signals

Now that you have put out all the right signals, you need to know how to read the messages he is sending back. Look out for his body language, signs guys are flirting are usually pretty easy to spot if he is mirroring any of your own body language. If you’re close enough, look to see if his pupils are dilated. If he smiles, licks his lips, stands with his legs wide apart or just blatantly keeps looking at you, you know that your eye contact flirting has been a success and that you’re in for a good night.

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